Your honesty is refreshing! I saw you on an interview on TV and I'm glad I check out your website and blog. We all get to live with the choices we make. There was a time in my life when I tried to do everything perfect and in God's perfect will so nothing bad would happen to me or my family. My motivation was off and living like that didn't keep the bad times away. There's an old hymn that has the lines "trust and obey." Now I think that is the only way to live a pleasing life- with the motive to love God with all you are- no matter what! I pray all works out for your relative and her children.